Ok I think I've found him. A Bart, or Edward, Bukwa who lives in Chicago IL, previous address in Evanston. He's 59 years old which is plausible give the information he put on the obituary. found it here: https://www.spokeo.com/Edward-Bukwa/Illinois/Chicago/p2935785061 Though Spokeo is kinda dodgy as contact info is behind a paywall and I don't really want to do that. I'll try find another way but if anyone wants to pay then go ahead, hopefully it is the same one and not just some weird coincidence.